Interview with Vince and Honeybunny

Liaisons sat down to interview “Vince” and “Honeybunny” recently about their experiences in the lifestyle…

 

Liaisons: How long have you been in the Lifestyle?

Honeybunny: “officially” four years…

L: and how long have you been together as a couple in total?

Vince: We went to senior prom together! (Both laughing)

L: High school…! So, a number of years, but we won’t specify an exact number of years…!

V & H: Oh let’s say over twenty…!

L: Over twenty! So, you’d been together for over sixteen years before you dipped your toes into this… What got you in – what was your interest or your first experience? Was it something you’d planned, was it something… Met the right couple of people…? Had you been fantasizing about it…?

H: We evolved…

V: We’d had a few vacation experiences…

H: …before four years ago! So, start ten years ago…

L: So little experiences…You’d been to Hedo (Hedonism Resort)

V& H: No, we went to Key West…!

L: So that’s a good start!

V: So there’s an all-nude bar and we were dancing up there, and Honeybunny was dancing with a guy, and we ended up having a threesome with him…right?

H: Yeah, just a little soft swap…and we were like, “Oh my gosh, what did we do?” It was one of those moments like, “(GASP) – that was hot!” but then we thought “I can’t believe we just did that! Are we okay?” We don’t know what we did, but we couldn’t stop talking about it when we were having sex after that for a long time!

V: Then three years later we went to Temptation (resort), met a couple there and played with them a little bit…

H: All organic stuff…we had no rules, we had no idea what we were doing…

V: We hadn’t talked about it…

L: All understanding that Temptation is a swingers resort [though not exclusively!]…

V: We knew what the environment was going to be…

H: We wanted topless; actually we’d looked for going to a topless place and it just worked out that that was underlying it…

V: So we did that, and we didn’t talk about it at the time, we had no rules…drunkenly got into it, and then three years later, we went to Desire (resort). At this point, we still weren’t calling ourselves “swingers” or “in the Lifestyle,” and we had some experiences there…still aren’t saying, “yes, we’re in the Lifestyle,” and then we went to a wedding in Colorado, listened to a podcast on the way home and said, “let’s sign up for SLS when we get back,” and that was four years ago, and said, “yep!” Evolution.

H: We were listening to the podcast and it was like “Oh! This is how you’re supposed to do this! You’re supposed to talk about this, and you’re supposed to have rules and conversations…!” Once we figured that out, we said, “Okay, this is hot!”

L: Give it some structure…

H: Yeah, give it some structure, and we’d been talking about all those hot moments so many years, and we thought “how can we bring this into our back yard?”

V: Unofficially, to answer your first question, probably fourteen – fifteen years; officially, four.

L: That’s a good way to look at it; you kind of dabbled for a long time and then really just jumped right in after that. So that answers my second question of “how did you get started?” Third question is “Do you have any fantasies that you haven’t yet tried?”

H: Hmm…Well…ahh…(laughing)

L: Maybe that’s a question for each of you that you haven’t talked about?

H: Well, we haven’t really done a lot of threesomes with men…a ton…

V: Well, some…

H: There’s probably more to explore there…

V: I don’t think we know what they are yet, I’ll just say that.

H: We’ve checked a lot of boxes off.

V: We’ve checked a lot off, and as things come up, it’s like, “maybe that’s hot!” So I don’t think we have things that are like, “we have to do this!”

L: Nothing you’ve really planned for, but things you may still be open to that you haven’t tried…

H: We’re open to a lot, but nothing that’s on the list right now, no.

L: Which leads me into the next question: what are you into? It sounds like you like…?

V: We like couples, primarily.

H: Couples is our primary thing.

V: Yeah, we enjoy that…

H: But we’ve enjoyed Unicorns, and we’ve had a little bit with single men…but we haven’t had an orgy, we haven’t done any more than four… Have we had more than four? A couple people around us at Princeton, but not more than that…

L: More specifically – and this may go into some of your group activity – is it that you like fellatio, you like cunnilingus, receiving, giving, you like anal, you like double penetration…? Let’s get into some of that…

H: Yeah, getting to the good stuff! Well, I do like double penetration, but DVP! I don’t like anal…but he loves anal! If there’s an opportunity, he will take it if offered! But he doesn’t get that with me so much. What else? All oral! I love kissing…I love kissing! I love the tease leading up to a fun night…

L: A lot of foreplay?

H: Yeah, I love that! The just getting part is more fun – well, not more fun – but it’s really fun for me.

L: Even prepping for the night is pretty good, just getting yourself ready to come out for something like this…

H: Yeah! What else? (To V) You like blowjobs…!

V: Yes I do…!

L: I think that’s fairly common among men!

V: I like pretzel play! That’s what I like to tell people.

L: “Pretzel play?”

H: I just want everyone intertwined!

L: So, hence the foursomes! So, maybe a sixsome, or maybe a fivesome would be good for you…?

H: (Laughing) Yeah!

L: Alright! You like toys? You like toys a lot? Not toys?

V: She likes her wand a LOT!

H: I brought it tonight! (Laughs) I’m a big fan of the wand! I mean, we’ve pulled out strap-ons, and…We’ve played with a lot of toys, but there’s not one that I’m like…

L: (To V) You up for receiving strap-ons?

V: I have, actually, I have…!

L: You have a strap-on that fits him?

H: I do! I do have a strap-on that fits him…!

V: It’s not really my “go-to”…

H: Yeah, but when you’re in a kinky mood…!

L: (Laughing) Yeah, when you’re in the right mood, it’s kind of…yeah!

H: We’ve dabbled with BDSM, which we didn’t really get into very much…a little bit… He’s more into that…

L: What are you looking for? That kind of leads from the fantasy question… I guess this is more of a multifaceted question. What are you looking for in terms of developing you as a couple? How does this enhance you as a couple? And what are you looking for when you come to a party like this, or you go to club, or you make date on line, or something like that? What is it that you’re hoping might happen?

H: For us, it’s about social connection.

V: And organic fun…

H: Organic… Forced fun is not…

V: We enjoy no pressure; just having fun, and when something happens, if it does, great! If not, that’s fine too.

H: I mean we obviously discuss it before it’s going to go into play. Like tonight, “we’re good with this, this, and this.” We’re comfortable, let’s just have a quick check-in before anything would happen…

V: Right, before we go home and have sex…we don’t care…that’s kind of our attitude…

H: Right! We like each other! If it happens, great! If it doesn’t, great! It doesn’t matter. We just like to get out, and the social part of it is big for us. Like being around like-minded people and being open…

V: Yeah, the interaction and hearing people’s stories…

H: Love stories…!

V: Like, “how’d you get into it?” And I love hearing… Everyone’s is different…

H: Yeah, so when we go out to meet other couples… We don’t have a lot of people; we have a few people that we’re with frequently, we don’t do a lot of just one-time things…

L: Not a lot of dating, or not a lot of “new dating” I should say…

H: We used to, because we were trying to find the right connections…

L: Sure! But once you get it, yeah…!

V: We met a couple in Desire that lives in St. Louis, so we see them every couple months…

H: We’ve seen them three or four times since then, and we’re going to go to Nashville and hang out with them…

V: They’re just really cool people and so we like spending time with them…

L: It’s good to make connection like that, yeah. So, you just mentioned meeting this couple in St. Louis; what would you say is your best Lifestyle experience? Maybe it’s different for each of you…

V: I don’t know, we’ve had a lot…!

H: Well, sometimes out most hot moments are -again – things that aren’t planned, like, we’re in the playroom at Desire, and it’s just the two of us, and the couple next to us asks to join and like, “Yeah!”

L: It just turns into something hot…

H: And I’m touching the couple next to us, and again –  it’s that energy…(gasps)…I love that! I think it’s really hot!

V: And we’ve also had very fun times with some friends that we have in town here where we hang out in vanilla situations; we sneak away for a moment for…SOMETHING! Not a lot…!

H: (Laughing) Barbecues can be naughty!

V: Barbecues! With kids running around and you’re doing stuff you shouldn’t do…! The naughtiness is fun!

L: That’s kinda cool!

H: Anything that’s new for me; I like a little adrenaline rush, so anytime there’s something a little new and exciting, that’s good memory for me!

L: Interesting! That’s cool! So, winding down…I should’ve asked this earlier…When you first were getting into this, you said you really hadn’t talked about rules or boundaries, or what your structure was going to be; some of it was just lustful drunken play… What are – NOW – where you are right now – who knows what they will go to – but currently, what are your some of your boundaries or rules? Do you only play together, or in the same room…?

V: Same room is where we’re still at, for the most part…

H: Yeah, most of the time. I mean, we have people that we’ve been with for years, so we’ll separate sometimes…

L: So you’re pretty comfortable with certain people…

H: Yeah, certain people. But, for the most part, if we’re meeting a new couple, then the rule that we would say is that we’re playing together, always use condoms, and…what else?

V: That’s about it…

H: I don’t know if we have any other rules other than that! It’s pretty much just talk about it; just be open, let’s talk about it…